These days there are so many memes, saying provers, quotes etc all over the internet and a little while back I stumbled across a poem. I agreed with the sentiment and really liked the poem and that was that, but today as I rushed back from town with my mind focused on the 101 things I needed to do before dashing down to the school for my 9 year olds end of topic presentation I started wondering about just how much as parents we miss out on with all the craziness that is parenthood and chores. I don't mean missing out on all the things that maybe our pre-child selves would do I mean missing out on things like watching your children fall about in fits of giggles over the smallest thing, catching them engrossed in a book and realising just how much they enjoy reading or something as simple as snuggling up to watch a movie. I know just how hard it can be to do everything that needs doing around the home and also trying to find time to play with the kids, give each of them quality time, watch a movie or just have some chilled time with them but it really is so important.
My eldest started college this year and it's really made me stop and think about just how quickly time does go and how much lack of quality time can really affect relationships(our relationship is strained at the best of times but that's a whole other blog post!) For years and years I would get stressed out and prioritise differently and as long as the kids were fed, clean and playing then I thought that that was all they needed and I would spend my days cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing, diy-ing(if that's even a word!) and yes I know that all these things need doing but at the same time these things can wait and be lower down on your list of priorities.
Lately, cleaning mania has hit social media and the world quite badly and while I know I have to clean my house daily, I watch some of the videos and Instastories lately of how obsessively people are cleaning and I realise that yes, I would love to scrub my toilet with a toothbrush so it sparkles(I'M BEING SARCASTIC) but that's time that I could spend reading with my children, doing some colouring in, catching up with how their day was or even just sitting on the sofa for a cuddle.
There will be days when I can't spend as much time with my children as I would like to but from now on I will be making sure that I MAKE time to be able to pay full attention.
As hectic as life can be in today's society we really do need to slow down and appreciate the little things and cherish the special moments we share with our children. They are our babies today and grown tomorrow.
This was the poem that inspired this post
Slow Down Mummy
Slow down Mummy
Slow down mummy, what is all the fuss?
Slow down mummy, make yourself a cup of tea.
Slow down mummy, come spend some time with me.
Slow down mummy, let's pull boots on for a walk,
Let's kick at piles of leaves, and smile and laugh and talk.
Slow down mummy, you look ever so tired,
Come sit and snuggle under the duvet, and rest with me a while.
Slow down mummy, those dirty dishes can wait,
Slow down mummy, let's have some fun - bake a cake!
Slow down mummy, I know you work a lot,
but sometimes mummy, it's nice when you just stop.
Sit with us a minute,
and listen to our day,
Spend a cherished moment,
because our childhood won't stay!
~ R Knight
What does your list of priorities look like?